Asking your girlfriend for forgiveness can seem like a monumental task. If you have hurt her so deeply that she has now told you that she needs time or space, you have work to do. If you don’t do the right thing and apologize in the right way, you can cause even more damage and lose her forever. Saying you’re sorry isn’t going to be enough. You need to go one step further to ensure that you can repair the relationship and make her feel close and connected to you again.
When it comes to apologizing to your girlfriend, you have to do it with sense and conviction. Depending on what you’ve done, this may mean you have to apologize multiple times or just once. While it’s tempting to accompany your apology with a gift or flowers, this isn’t the best idea. A woman may misunderstand you if she is feeling very emotional. She may view the gesture of goodwill as a bribe and the sincere apology she was trying to deliver will be lost in translation. Leave all the gifts out of it. Instead, ask him to meet with you, and then tell him you’re sorry.
Trying to explain why you did what you did should come later. When you apologize to your girlfriend, keep it simple and direct. Tell him that you are sorry for what you did and that you are deeply sorry for the pain he caused him. Let her know that you are as disappointed in her own behavior as she is.
The next part of your quest to get your girlfriend to forgive you is to show her that you really are a changed man. Telling him that you will be different or that you will not repeat the same mistake can be lost. She may doubt that and it would be for good reason. Your past behavior is what is guiding his decision making now, so you must show him, through your renewed actions, that you are a better person who has learned from his past mistakes. Change any behavior that caused you to hurt her. Let her see that you have a renewed purpose in life and that is to make her trust you and your love for her again.
It will obviously take time, but with patience and perseverance you can rebuild the relationship to make it even better than before. You love her so it’s worth the effort.