STOP BEING A (PUSH OVER) THAT ALWAYS SAYS YES
Do you feel the need to please? Do you always agree with the prevailing opinion, even when you feel it is deeply wrong? Do you constantly ask what others think of your actions?
In this case, you are addicted to the approval of others, and for my part I do not agree with your behavior! Being a yes man myself, I know for a fact that this character trait is one of the most destructive and debilitating of all. This prevents people from realizing their potential. His whole life is focused on the impossible task of satisfying others. Improving that situation is easy: Change your perception of success! Moving up the career ladder, saying only what others want to hear, is synonymous with mediocrity and generates frustration in your personal life. People who say yes to everything are living a false existence, the worst thing is that despite everything, there will always be someone somewhere who does not like the way they are.
If all our self-esteem is built according to the opinion of others, we are paving the way for a miserable life of delusions. This is the fastest path to depression, anxiety and the inability to imagine that we deserve a better life, a more stable love relationship and faithful friends. The majority of the population is addicted to the approval of others to varying degrees, but they are completely unaware that the problem exists. Know that career opportunities can be severely limited by conformism. Selling a product, an idea or a service is a fundamental component of personal development. Knowing how to sell yourself is even a great quality, but everything requires overcoming the fear of rejection. In fact, many people are emotionally devastated when someone tells them no. They will do anything to avoid conflict and therefore rejection.
This reflex is very difficult to overcome without some type of emotional support or advice. An individual’s vanity is sometimes so fragile that the slightest criticism or negative response discourages them all. Where does this apparent desire to please everyone come from? Some people are able to rehash old stories from 20+ years ago and were scarred by how they were received long ago. But beware: there is a big difference between lying to yourself and being nice to others. In truth, no one consciously chooses to be limited, attached and deceived by their own lies, those who always say yes are unable to love themselves if they do not receive praise from others. They look for flattery like an alcoholic looking for beer or an addict looking for his drug fix. Certainly in life we can make the conscious choice to be cooperative and generous, and to say yes to please. If you show disapproval, do so in a constructive and positive way. The key is in the mental approach: You have to attack the problem without emotionally attacking your interlocutor or feeling attacked in return. Unfortunately, there are people who will follow the herd all their lives. The day they dare to do something daring, the pack will express their disapproval and presto! They will immediately return to the pack.
SELF-EXAMINATION
A simple way to deprogram people who lack authenticity. If you feel uncomfortable after having different opinions with someone, ask yourself the following three small questions.
- On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being a matter of life or death), how would you rate the situation that just occurred?
- What is the worst consequence that could arise from it?
- Are you real in your disagreement? In other words, are you disagreeing for the sole purpose of deliberately hurting your interlocutor?
ARE YOU A MAN YES?
Take this short quiz and you could challenge some of your preconceptions.
A. Are you worried about the opinion of others on your topic?
B. Are you holding back from doing certain things for fear of the disapproval of others?
C. Do you suffer from anxiety if someone seems angry with you?
D. Do you think that the opinions of others are greater than yours?
E. Do you keep silent for fear of alienating someone close to you?
If you answered yes to all of these questions, your need for approval is great and certainly blocks your personal journey.
GIVING YOURSELF
I. Make decisions based on oneself and consider the approval of others as (just a plus).
II. Never go against your values to please others or silence criticism.
third Be determined and stand up for what you take seriously. Even your opponents will respect your strength of character.
IV. Have confidence in yourself. Your opinion counts as much as anyone else’s, so make sure it counts.
V. Take risks when you think it’s worth it.
SAW. Learn to say no and live your life in a way that pleases you.