“I hurt my boyfriend’s feelings.” Sadly, most of us have said it at some point. The moment you realize that what you did or said hurt your boyfriend is the moment you want to get into a hole and hide. It’s horrible to hurt the person you care about the most. Even if he tells you he’s over it, things are not the same. Perhaps he has withdrawn a little or is less affectionate. If you leave this unattended, he may start to resent you for the pain you caused him and inevitably that is the beginning of the end of your relationship. You have to act now if you want to smooth things over and make her feel closer to you again.
Obviously, it goes without saying that an apology is critical if you’ve hurt the feelings of the man you love. How you handle the apology is very important. What most women tend to do is keep apologizing after the first try. If he doesn’t seem to accept the apology, don’t bother him into doing so. If you’ve tried to make it up to him, that’s all you can do. Resorting to buying her things or sending her love letters won’t help. In fact, they will damage things more because it will feel like you’re trying to buy back their love. Just tell him genuinely and sincerely that you’re sorry and leave it at that.
It is inevitable that a man will back down if he has been injured. All human beings do. It is part of our emotional defense mechanism. How you handle your need for space will determine the future of your relationship.
You should take advantage of your maturity after you have hurt your boyfriend’s feelings and give him time to process and absorb them. He may need a break from you. If you fight him about it, you are literally suggesting that his needs matter little compared to yours. However, if you accept that you hurt him and to get over that he needs some space, he will be moved that you respect him so much.
The key is not to let it escape. Even if he has pulled away, be understanding and understanding. Let him know that you are always available to speak with him on any subject. Once you’ve put some time and distance between yourself and the episode that hurt you, you’re open to forgiveness. Be patient and understanding and you will see the good in you again.